As BDSM and fetish themes continue crossing the threshold into mainstream media, certain customs have become more widely used than others. Over the years we’ve seen latex and leather fashion drift into the limelight and with the popularity of fetish content , this is not surprising. Another aspect of BDSM that’s become increasingly popular is the wearing of collars. Unlike leather and latex where significance can vary from fetishist to fetishist, the collar in BDSM generally represents something more remarkable.
It is normally accepted in BDSM communities that collaring is a symbol of empowerment or ownership of one over another. Often within the community the significance of a collar is compared to a wedding ring, though not everyone accepts such a comparison. Besides denoting a certain level of domination, the individual meaning of collaring varies from scene to relationship.
Often for established Dominants and submissives, the collar is given by the Dominant to the submissive as a sign of commitment and protection. A Dominant and a submissive decide to take their relationship to the next level so they incorporate a collar. The first step could be the training collar; the training collar signifies a submissive in training, whether that means discipline, masochism, expectations, respect, tasks, etc. For the Dominant, the collar means authority, protection, commitment, honesty, respect, loyalty, and responsibility. For the submissive, the collar signifies obedience, respect, honestly, loyalty, commitment, adoration, subordination. For the Dominant and submissive here, collaring is a serious undertaking. Collaring at this point can also be an indication that a relationship has evolved.
The philosophy and meaning of an online collar is often discussed within the community. There are members who express that an online D/s or LDR (long distance relationship) is a form of the ultimate submission; reporting to your Dominant constantly and being expecting to enforce rules and discipline by oneself is often a complex task. Online collaring could also be seen as the ultimate act of Dominance; being able to radiate prowess so much so that it transcends distance and technology is not a small feat. Nevertheless, here are some ways online collaring adds valuable and unique aspects to the BDSM webcam experience.
Every collar is different; the meanings, rituals, levels of intimacy and Domination associated with collaring vary from person to person. Is collaring IRL different from collaring online? Yes, different mediums produce different outcomes. Does collaring online offer valuable and unique kink experience that wouldn’t necessarily transpire IRL? Yes, it absolutely does. Online collaring is a great way for kink beginners to experiment with different levels of Domination and submission while staying safe and discreet behind the comfort of their webcam.